A Day When My Life Has Changed
There is thought the Earth started going around faster in recent times. It certainly contributed to the way people plan their daily routine. The whole life acquired tremendously different character. It follows that nothing stays the same for a long time. Despite the fact, that our lives are currently referred to as more active, the signs of suddenness are still present. One event in one day can change the whole person`s life.
The Victim Syndrome as a Catalyst for Personal Change
It was an ordinary day with a list of tasks I had to complete but had no desire. The heavy rain seemed to wash off all the bright colors of the world outside. Morning coffee did its best to relieve my spirits but it failed, and I finally forced myself to go to work filled with crazy-busy schedules and constant deadlines. Now, remembering the former workplace, I must admit it was the grayest building in the city. While entering the hall, I started to notice things that usually did not attract my attention. Colleges greeted me with the courteous smiles and as soon as I passed by, started whispering and discussing the news. The same people, the same place. I got my desk and started browsing the news feed. My attention was driven by the article on top called “Are You a Victim of a Victim Syndrome?”. I started reading and after a while recognized myself. It became clear I suffer from victim syndrome. As Manfred F.R. Kets de Vries states, people with victim syndrome always complain about bad things that happen in their lives, nothing feels right to them, and trouble seems to follow them wherever they go.
What is more, their negative outlook on life transforms every setback into a major drama (Kets de Vries 4). They choose to suffer injuries, painting themselves as innocent victims caught in a cruel world, martyrs who suffer the slings and arrows of outrageous fortune, ever deserving of sympathy and pity (Millon, Grossman 299). I got utterly lost in the article and was wondering whether there was a chance to improve my current state. The answer followed soon after, the author of the research encouraged people with victim syndrome to challenge their ingrained beliefs, learn to assume responsibility and care for themselves, build new identity and attitudes (Kets de Vries 19). The fact is that the opinion comes first: once the mind believes that a person can do something, the body will do it. Thus, before a person can change the outside, he has to change the inside.
How the Power of Choice Builds a New Identity
Right after reading I concluded that I lead the life which had nothing to do with the one I always dreamt about. It didn’t take a long time before I got ready and left the office. The decision was made: that working day was the last one in that office. A couple of hours later, I bought a one-way ticket to New York, packed a suitcase, and radiating pride and ambition, began the journey. That was the day when my life had changed completely. I realized, from that particular moment I became the only person who could make decisions concerning my future.
Looking back, I felt a sort of regret for working so long in a place I did not like and communicating with people who deserve no respect. I immersed in the routine to such an extent that I did not even notice how quickly life was passing by. At present, I understand it was a complete waste of precious time. For this reason, I decided to take refuge in traveling.
As it was mentioned before, my first destination was New York. The Big Apple contributed a lot to my transformation, but even more impressive was how it made me feel mentally: strong, empowered, unstoppable. I learned that by making simple changes in life, the overall quality of physical and mental health could be improved. The trick is to focus on the right things at the right times.
Currently, I keep moving forward and broaden my mindset. My life is full of joy and relief because I have managed to turn my hobby into the profitable business. Annually I meet hundreds of people and inspire them not to be afraid of change.
To conclude, only one day filled with a particular sequence of events, random article, and decisions that followed has helped me do everything that I had not been able to do during the previous years. It was a day that had transformed the awful experience into increasingly perspective and useful one. My story might serve as an example of the unpredictability of life, which shows that every change, either minor or significant, is for the better.
Kets de Vries, Manfred F.R. “Are You A Victim Of The Victim Syndrome?” SSRN Electronic Journal, 2012, Elsevier BV, doi:10.2139/ssrn.2116238.
Millon, Theodore, and Seth Grossman. Personality Disorders In Modern Life. Hoboken, John Wiley & Sons, 2004.